more than one voice

Monday, October 3, 2011

being alone


The art making process can be a solitary affair and sometimes I feel lonely. I have often wondered about loneliness as it seems to be something that many people battle with. I have wondered if contact with others really does take away loneliness.

I remember when I was working in London, completely and utterly alone, I knew no one, and yet I didn’t feel lonely.  It was a time in my life when I remembered with perfect clarity to live in the present moment, to watch life, to observe myself with no expectations, with no distractions.  I still remember in detail the walks I took, the wind on my face as I looked at how the leaves on the trees responded to the same wind, I had no need to explain life to myself; it just was what it was.

I think that when we face life moment by moment as it presents itself then we are happy with what is, happy to be alone, we don’t need to constantly seek out others, if they are there that is great, but it is also fine to be alone.  I find that when I forget this way of being that is when the loneliness creeps in, and becomes the distraction. I forget that solitude can be a gift, something that is a necessity, I forget to breathe in stillness, to let silence wrap around my shoulders, and to feel its comfort. People can fill the space and there is nothing better than spending an afternoon laughing with a special friend but we also need silence, quiet time to fill up our souls .



17 comments:

  1. A deep and beautiful post. Life can get real busy, I don't connect with the silence as much as I should. Love reading how deep and knowing your soul is! Love :)

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  2. Lovely paintings....lovely thoughts.

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  3. Being alone is so rejuvenating and lovely. Just to feel the space around your head and let your thoughts flow. One day when my kids are a little older I will be able to lose myself in being alone...once more.

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  4. Dear Clare - to those words, I agree a thousand percent!
    I too LOVE to be alone, to be only with myself, to float in the quietness, and to "listen to the silence" - as you have so wonderfully said. And then I LOVE to be with people - family, friends, soulmates...
    If it is equal it is the best.
    Such a wonderful post Clare - AND: I would pick a whole bunch of you!
    Here, take a BIG hug!

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  5. clare, wonderful words that I read over and over several times, and each time thinking what wise and true sentiments they are. I too lived in London alone but never felt lonely, well maybe the first week I did! but after that never. keep those wise words a coming! love reading here!

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  6. I enjoyed reading this post! In order to connect with our own creative soul we need to be alone. We can create with others but we also need solitary time where we can let the 'silence wrap around our shoulders'. Beautifully put Clare! :)
    Jess xx

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  7. Clare thanks for your comment on my blog. I too felt angry when I saw the cigarette butte near the wolf's paw but I suppose its up to the rest of us who do appreciate to bring about change. I love your posts. Have been reading a few and just added as a follower. This post is right on time. Reading the Artists Way with a group online and this week talks about the need for artists to have alone time. Great post.

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  8. I completely agree--it feels like you could have been reading my thoughts this week! :) It's really only when I start to believe that I "should" be socializing or networking more, that I begin to feel really lonely. I love what you said about living in the moment and how you learned it when you lived alone in London. I can identify with this too--living in a new country and feeling like a stranger, but somehow getting more comfortable in your own skin through it all.

    I'm so glad you linked up to "Storytellers"--this and some of your other posts make me think you are a kindred spirit and I look forward to reading more!

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  9. It's so true, I feel most lonely when I'm not noticing the beautiful life moments around me. It's usually when I'm self-pitying instead of being grateful. Thank you for this post.
    My Blog

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  10. Oh wow, seeing aura's when you were little is so cool. Must of been so magical! I can't remember seeing aura's. I don't think I did. Maybe as you get older you may see them again. Many people are talking about a new age, an opening up of a new vibration. Your gift for this is sitting waiting to be re opened? Would you want to see them again?
    Thank you Clare so much :)

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  11. Clare, you write so beautifully. I hope you are keeping all this collection of thoughts to publish them. it would make such an inspiring book.
    It’s so wonderful to be back from my break just so i can come to visit you :)
    xo sandra

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  12. So beautifully written (said). I can identify and agree with you 100 percent. I so love the way you can express exactly what I think and feel! I am hoping also that you would consider an inspirational art book full of these words of wisdom, observations and art!
    Hugs, Jessi xox

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  13. I love this post, you continue to blow me away with your beautiful art and words. I, to am a bit of a loner, don't get me wrong I love people and all the entertainment they bring, but I crave silence. It's in those precious moments that I reconnect with myself, remember why I'm here and give thanks for all my many blessing.

    Debbie
    x0x0x

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  14. these messages and your art is wonderfully precious and i treasure seeing it.

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  15. Hi Clare! I've been enjoying my morning here at your blog. I love your artwork, and I was also looking at your fabric art. I love the funky chicken! I need to put your blog on my sidebar so I will remember to stop by more often. Have a great week!

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  16. oh yes. time to be alone.
    & then the time to pick
    companionship..in the
    flower of a friend.
    love & need both.
    lovely pieces, clare.
    xo

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  17. I grew up as an only child who lived thousands of miles away from my extended family, so I learned from an early age to be alone often. I still need and enjoy my time alone. I find it's impossible for me to write or create anything well during times when I'm constantly engaging with other people. Like you, I sometimes also forget how important and fulfilling solitude can be. These times, when I forget how important solitude is to me, are really the only times I feel lonely.

    Thanks for another lovely post
    xo

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