I was having a conversation with a special friend the other day, discussing all our dreams and things we would love to do. We asked ourselves the big question, what keeps us from achieving our dreams?
I was thinking about our conversation later that day and I released that it was fear, no big ah ha moment there. But what the big wow turned out to be – was when I identified that part of my fear included - fear of missing out.
What I mean by this is that I’m often so busy searching for the right dream. I’m scared that if I settle for just one dream that I might miss out on a better dream. I become frantic; I switch and change my mind, shift gears, begin things and don’t finish them, one big dream after another. The problem is that I’m so focused on not missing out that I actual don’t ever really just do, I don’t fully engage with any one thing. It's not surprising that I don’t ever achieve my dreams and goals, because I have so many and I change them all the time, in my manic attempt not to miss out on anything.
I guess I need to start by appreciating all the good stuff I have, to live more in the present and stop jumping into hundreds of alternative realities. I need to make a reasonable list of goals and dreams, and start sticking to things, get a bit of glue on my soul.
I’m just really relieved that I didn’t carry this particular fear into my marriage!
Col - busy working on fittings for the shop
it's been extremely hot today - so I thought I would send all my friends in the northern hempishere some summer flowers